Excuse my typos. sister Fatima, May ALLAH forgive you. There needs to be an article about what men can do for their wives bcz Im sick and tired of reading any more tripe as to how I can better serve a man. Just make sure you know yours before getting involved with someone and be honest and to show your intentions. If you respect your husband and his needs ISA he will respect yours. It is possible that your husband was pressured by his parents to marry. Thankyou. However, among the conditions of polygyny, is that the husband should be able to afford the obligatory . First ray of real light Ive seen in these sad and depressing comments. That my way is a little cliche, and sterotypical but none the less, he still loves me. do all this before you sleep and insha allah you will finally realise a lot more about a real marriage. Hindus are more polygamous than Muslims The report of the Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66,67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the year 1951 -1961 was 5.06 among the Hindus and only 4.31 among the Muslims. But also recognize that this will also cause damage and harm to your family. To explain further: if a Muslim woman prays istikhaarah about . Why only wife has to live her whole life with only sabr and pain.of husbands second marriage? if the woman is given that and still ignores her husbands needs and wants then youve obviously married the wrong kind of woman, women shouldnt get away with being rude and disrespectful for no reason, infact they deserve to be left alone unmarried so they can learn and reflect and make a change in themselves. Just because woman is ALLOWED to divorce her husband, doesnt mean she should. I thought I wanted to convert but to see this is how men really think? The reaction of most of these women show exactly why this article is called 7 things your husband wont tell you Excerpted, with slight modifications, form: www.islam-qa.com iv) To give protection to a widow or any other woman who requires it. thorn that pricks him, but Allaah will expiate his sins thereby.. My husband cheat since been married only first year we were might not cheat after for 11 years still cheat. Bottom line is this the wife was respectful to him. 2. Biologically, it is not possible for an average man or a woman to remain celibate throughout life. Sometimes youve to face the difficult phases & problems too. What happens if you hate his touch or being intimate with him n never look forward to it ever. Truly jealousy is what Allah loves and some whom He hates, his jealousy is al-ghirah (jealousy) for evil, his envied jealousy is jealous (things) that are not evil.(HR an-Nasai and Ibn Hibban), 15. I love this. Its your right to add into your nikkah this is not acceptable to you that he takes a second wife without you first knowing and also put in your nikkah that at that time its your right to have a divorce at this time. What does a women do then ??? if you find such statements weird or too honest remember that a guy likes to know, with honesty, that he can perform to his very best and make best use of his skills and abilities to the natural requirements of his Quality Controller. Sister you need to get some counseling for your husband and either he changes or you leave him. I only protected what was mine. Lol, totally agree. Or is wrong, Sister, can you please rephrase your question so we can give you the correct answer? In the hadith of Abu Dawud below, it is narrated. Muhsinoon (gooddoers) to be lost 5. Okay, first of all, calm down. In Islam, true dreams are a way for Allah to communicate with human beings, who would otherwise be unable to perceive Him. You might not like it or want to practice it but thats fine. Its HARAM to look at other women to begin with so how would it be ok for them to be attracted to other women.I dont look or think about anyone but my husband!! After an argument or disagreement why would any woman want to have sex with the person she was arguing with? And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error. there are many ways a man can help and support other womans without having to marry them and having any relationships. May Allah guide us all to the right path.Ameen. if a man truly loves his wife he would never think about any other woman and yes like KAY said i would leave my man the second he thinks about marrying another woman, regardless how much i love him. 0.001%. I got married to him for my family, soon after marriage the day I went to his house the entire house burden n my father in laws responsibility was on me. Soon all went to waste and we started losing everything one by one. Based on this piece, the man just wants a subservient slave who will try to please his dirty need, even his lust for other women, without expecting any reciprocation. How many of us men are amirs or princes living a lavish lifestyle. (Imam al-Bukhari ). I dont have my parents connection.. so I dont have any moral support. . 33:36 Well you should about that before gething married then, would you rather him go to someone else. Why do you think men like buying women gifts? I thought of leaving him and live alone with my son. 4. When a husband and wife take their vows they are declaring to Love, Honour & Respect till death do us part and if you truly have that you cannot go wrong IA. Thank you. It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And Allah Knows Best. Stand up to abuse! I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. It just means that all (straight) men do, at some point in their lives, consider having another woman (i.e. What is Halal shall always be Halal and what Allah kareem has deemed haram shall always remain haram.what we think about on the said matter simply accounts for nothingand remember Allah kareem knows best as he created us and knows exactly what we should do and what we need to abstain from.men will always be men and I think its time we admitted that.the subcontinent especially is rife with criticism of multiple marriages and who ever indulges in that is looked upon with hatred and disgust by societywhat right does society have of doing something like this.and then we have the Persians who twist the faith and usually never marry a second woman but legalize one night stands with the doctrine of Mutta :\. And the wrongdoers will get their due punishment as well. Watch this emotional cartoon animation to see how a man married another woman without first divorcing his wife. JOIN US Facebook https://bit.ly/3yOap. This is got to be one of THE best articles Ive read about Muslim couples. I know someone who says he loves his wife and yet wants to get married again! nobody is forcing anyone luv. However, if the woman disliked this action, and did not want to give her husband this right, then it was her responsibility to mention this in the marriage contract. His duty is to protect and provide for the family, even if the wife is stronger and wealthier. Thus, your situation with your husband needs further investigation. 3. He is a beautiful soul! something haraam. Polygamy is a difficult situation to address. I am at the edge of breaking and breaking up with him .. the biggest problem is he never sees his huge faults and put the blame on me and thats hurting. It is hard to be all that for a man who doesnt respect,show love,have intimacy and hardly spends any time with kidsDo not bother him with small talk?what is that? Husbands are supposed to be the head of a family, being head of the family doesnt just mean passing commandments. In the very same verse it is stated clearly that if a man cannot treat his wives with equity, he should not marry more than one woman. despite all this my husband chats to women and deep down i have strong reason to suspect he has been with other women. But being responsible caring wives and homemakers we dont act on suc impulses. Women are not to be condemned for this jealousy, for it existed in the best of righteous women, the wives of the Companions, and even in the Mothers of the Believers. I dont want to go back dont want to live with that man anymore. when he want love with me, it is at day time at other place. Astagfirullah Allah forgive us all ameen. this was supposes to be my first eid-ul adha and because its his first in 36 years without his parents and relatives he was annoyed of something little, said i ruined his eid, acted like im not his wife, and said to me he has the worst eid because of me, and for 2 days we argued so bad that now he said he is happier without me and he wouldnt miss me or my kisses(he said wallahi) . Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. Even that Muslims brother had a couple of wives in Paris. The writer is just being realistic! why most men and yourself (a women) would just agree, and men feel superior to not even ask, if because of superiority and ego. He did the same. Does he have a good understanding of his own wifes anatomy and psychology. Going for Second Marriage: Do I Need Wifes Permission? Because ISLAM is the only perfect way of lifestyle. 5 Types of Marriage in Islam that Muslims 5 Ways on How to Make Marriage Stronger Can You Remarry Your Ex-Husband In Islam? Made us cook only traditional food. second wife will bring a special reward over and above that, for several If you are worried about not being able to do justice both inwardly and materially. Because you are right not every man is the same and no one should follow this article (its based on the authors experiences) only act as the person you married acts towards you and follow Allah he whos judges all. She was loyal and pleased him sexually, why did he venture off? As for the positive result that you say your friend got, That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. but i don`t like the way things is going like this. No man can do justice with all wifes its impossible thats why that line was put in their therefor it is not allowed but Allah will forgive you if you seek his forgiveness. Im with you 100%, Kay. Thank you for making it clear, I was already shocked by the comments 0.0. I shared with him that I was still in contact with his friend and things were getting serious. and he (the husband) spends the night angry.. Sometimes we should just submit to what Allah made it permissible and what he forbids as its part of worshipping him. Your email address will not be published. I am not Muslim, however I respect/support his beliefs and the teachings/love of Allah. seriously good points you have mentioned here. The future marriage will be a happy one. This is not my version Islam. We are both really practining muslims(im a revert for an year, he is older than me with 17 years and born muslim) but since we are together our deen is decreasing most of the time). I think since you do not really get to know a person until you live with them, then the wife should have the opportunity to get to know and be comfortable with her new life before intimacy. decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with The hadith is meant for two people who are married and are being the best husband and wife to one another. It doesnt mean hes thinking about taking a second wife. what if a woman has more than average desire. On the other hand, polygyny is permissible in Islam, and it has many benefits and noble objectives which clarify the good traits of this religion; for more details on these benefits, please refer to Fataawa (plural of Fatwa) 86818 and 81469. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. relationships such as marriage. Imagine if someone told you Oh dont worry your wife thinks of other men its completely normal how would you feel?? Broadly, Islam has five categories of Dos and Donts. disobeying Allaah or going against His commands, this is a sin for which he But now I have a better understanding of this I used to think that it was only my husband dat acts this but I now I have a better perceptive of things! Can I? Knowledge of these matters. Islam Q&A, You can ask your question on the website via this link: https://islamqa.info/en/ask, Password should contain small, capital letter and at least 8 characters long, Log in 1. You may think leaving is the hardest thing to do (it takes courage) but have faith Allah will guide you. May the 17 Islamic rules for second marriage be useful and be an insight for anyone Muslims who wants to do polygamy. Also, there are more women than men. Correction can be painful but .. CULTURE, people mix Islam with their culture, Islam does not teach a man to not communicate with his wife. If You Nudge Him, He Can Be A Better Muslim Thanks. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. So, a lot of Muslim men and women go through their marriages with very little communication and never really knowing what the other person is thinking. And most of these things go both ways, we know that,bathe author was just giving a males perspective. So stop being childish and open your eyes . i agree with u kay. .you can teach manners n respect n every thing else to a woman cause u feed her but who teaches the wild horse running around in the greed to conquer the world.my ears are sick n tiered of listening to the word peer pressures.exposer n all that crap.by God theres a thing called shaitan n we all have to fight it. All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. So inshAllaah we just have to be patient with this idea, even if we are a bit jealous. After all I have been to him. I agree with you ,u shoot my many problem.only one word I want to say thanks. Another point is that actually polygamy can lift the burden of responsibility the woman have towards their husbands and gives her more freedom. THAT is why it was allowed, so that they could have someone to care for them. There are many instances in which a man may choose to marry another woman. Alhomdolillah he is very soft and understanding if I dont want to be intimate but other men are not so kind. Disclaimer:The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. failure after only a few months, because they are based on a weak Your husband needs to know that youre going to be by his side if: You should be loyal to your husband before everything else except Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). alhamdulillah we were blessed with a lill princess.hubby has changed since I gave birth to our bby.he would touched me whenever he want.he loves kids so do I.i thought maybe its because he was tired thats why he refused to sleep with me in 3 to 4 days..after that he would come n touched me again.now I had to undergo an abortion. If you (men) want to do a second marriage. So really, #4 about him thinking of other women is not bad, that is his right. 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