The first time I was hospitalized for suicide, I was eighteen years old. There are many ways to speak out about Autism; tearing your kid apart and shouting to the world that their life has no meaning is not one of them. If you dont have a support network, Im so, so sorry to hear that! I think sharing about how to deal with parenting issues (regardless of whether the child is ND or NT) is invaluable. All your statement tells me is that you dont have any clue about the life behind severe autism, so you shouldnt belong to a group for low, or lower, functioning ASD people. WHERE does such heartless criticism come from?? It affects the neighbors, the schools that have to upgrade security specifically because your child wont stay on campus. When pushed to do something they don't want to do, your child may throw a fit. If what you have is autism (it does not meet my definition as you are able to write this article, marry, have children) then that is not in anyway comparable to the kind of autism my son has and Cooper has. This article is saying you shouldnt complain, vent etc. Not to mention that you could EXPOSE YOUR CHILDREN TO BULLIES AND/OR PAEDOPHILES. If shes not for you dont follow her, dont watch her videos but making a blog to shame her cause you dont prefer her style, ew just ew. This article was laughable. Is that complaining? Frustration over a lack of communication. Cute list. Thats why shes asking for privacy, because while I hope to god that your son outlives you, statistics say that someone elses Autistic child wont. Hates her child? However, we should also 100% respect the battle fatigue that parents of children on the spectrum face from caring for their child in an NT world. Neurodiversity Doesnt Exclude Your Child You do. Last Updated: March 29, 2022 Instead say "I don't understand, but I care and I'm glad you're talking to me.". I cant drive with him because he kicks me in the back of the head and pulls my hair. There are plenty of loving families out there that can treat an autistic child as a human being instead of a broken toy. Luna Rose leads wikiHow's Autism Project. Many autism-related organizations treat autistic children like burdens and spread the rhetoric of abuse. Screams and slaps are his stims. If the mother had the nerve to publish that content, she should deal with the consequences! I promise you, they did their share of complaining as ALL parents do, even those with easy typically developing children, because I have one of those too and YES, I have complained about her too. Too many people who lack the empathy, understanding and patience for what seems like even neurotypical kids, let alone autistic kids. So much! Special door locks and alarms on every door because the same severe individual can, and will, elope, whenever possible. The problem here isnt the teachers, most of whom are going beyond duty for the children. They would grow to be self-sufficient, self-reliant, and individualized on their own. Totally agree.. and @TMDH, if your autistic you definitely dont fal into the same category as severe since you could type that comment all by yourself and can form words and express them. The first thing you need to do is accept that you are where you are and there is no blame, there is nothing you could of done differently because if you could have, you would have. I need help as all humans do, not the same kind of help as most humans but there is no shame in that. Its just prettied up under a thin veneer of platitudes in regards to personal privacy. Older autistic people are able to communicate their experiences with burnout in a way toddlers can't. Adults have reported symptoms such as: Increased sensitivity to sensory stimuli, such as . Im afraid Ill hit someone while being distracted by trying to dodge blows. You can afford therapy?! My daughter is highly functioning, ADHD, epileptic and ODD. When your child is severe,it is like nothing you have ever seen. So if I have to complain I will do it because it really is difficult. The two should never be mixed. Remember that many autistic people don't like the idea of hurting themselves. Stop shaming someone for sharing Genuine valid emotions and sharing experiences that shes finding hard. Pile on? People with autism have a number of legal rights and protections. She shouldnt have posted a video about it, but you shouldnt be judging her. Surely we have to bring it back to the child first and foremost.it made me very sad to watch this childs needs clearly not being met. Forgive yourself and those in your community. No one wants to talk about the dark side of all this. How to Handle an Autistic Child's Behavior Download Article methods 1 Handling a Lack of Responsiveness 2 Coping with Language and Communication Problems 3 Dealing with Meltdowns and Tantrums + Show 6 more. Nasty woman. She is anything but a bad person. But the difference at the two extreme end points hardly look like the same condition. Its articles like this and people like you thst make it impossible to find anyone or anything genuine about real autism struggles. You treat your children like shit and then wonder why they act out like this. Okay, but where else can these people vent? You are the reason your son does those things. Learn the difference. I watched the video thats being quoted in this article, what I saw was a Mother who was vulnerable, clearly struggling, sharing real, raw and valid emotions with the world. I find it interesting that the first thing this article does is shame a mom for her blog. To re a firm that just because i have break downs and the cold reality of raising a disabled child doesnt look like the made up fairy tale people try to sell you online, does not mean im a horrible mother or bad person. Yes, in an ideal world it would be edited to reflect that vast differences people with autism can have but it was not because bigotry is alive and welleven it turns out in a community that should have sympathy and understanding for the many different faces of autism. But my son cannot read nor understand offensive opinion pieces like this nor the supportive great article! offensive comments that belittle his autism as something not real, something that exists only because I want something to complain about. Be careful about behavior modification therapies. There are 12 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. What am I gunna do when hes 35 and 6ft 5 and 240 pounds like his dad when hes this violent now? He has punched holes in the walls of every room in the house. Has anyone been in this situation and can give me some wisdom and advice or even just a 'you are not alone'? Ableism (yes, even from parents) is the issue. Autism is one of the pervasive developmental disorders, with symptoms that usually appear before three years of age. ANY child COSTS his parents a great deal of money [For a middle-income family to raise a child born in 2015 through the age of 17, the cost of rearing a child has hit $233,610, according to the report.] But: A child with autism? my beloved will never get a drivers license, marry, father a child, hold a job for pay or live independently or understand history or historical figures like MLK,JFK, FDRNONE of them. Your 15 20 25 still in a specialized car seat. Breeder moms are the type to call CPS on other moms they deem inferior in their parenting or shame the mom of a disabled child for publicy mourning the future that was robbed from her child like in this article. I wish the term autism wasnt so broad. Point istry to take it one day at a time. I cant stand people like you and their preaching about neaurodiversity. SOMETHING in our environment is hurting our childrens brains and the result is an epidemic of ADHD, autism, allergies. Why dont you self-righteous, toxic parents support your autistic kids and let them be themselves, rather than complaining about how horrible your life is? You went no contact? Make sure your child knows that you love them, autism and all. You get date nights?! Ew, neurotypicals. Now that we have that out of the way, lets get to the meat of it. hmmmm. Wash the parts where your hands are in your lap. By using our site, you agree to our. Even if I tired too there is not enough time to plan lesson for every child like that, and some days after having a child have a melt down and everything else you had to do after teaching all day without a break you dont have the mental enegery left to spend hour to spend thinking of how Jonny would do better if I could link this concept to his interests in sea life. On behalf of all the autism parents who could get through about two paragraphs of your article, STOP JUDGING. My son just turned three in January, he has SPD, possible ADHD, and is being re-evaluated for ASD. That is the most passive aggressive thing I have ever read in my life. I havent made it to 32 yet, and Im very lucky to have made it this long. I have given more than my all into the depths I did not know existed. This article has been viewed 68,833 times. Theres a video circulating on Facebook with a mother in tears. The very fact that you wrote this tells me you have NO clue what severe autism is, or what it looks like. Our days consist of never getting a full night of non-interrupted sleep, constant screaming, screeching, tantrums, outbursts of physical violence of every kind, changing diapers and unwillingness to eat. I am being totally sincere not at all sarcastic. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/c\/cb\/Handle-an-Autistic-Child%27s-Behavior-Step-31.jpg\/v4-460px-Handle-an-Autistic-Child%27s-Behavior-Step-31.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/c\/cb\/Handle-an-Autistic-Child%27s-Behavior-Step-31.jpg\/aid4929972-v4-728px-Handle-an-Autistic-Child%27s-Behavior-Step-31.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"