My conditions have all been verified by multiple doctors and specialists.). Ive always had it and its bananas impossible to explain to anyone without coming off as a jerk when Id suddenly fume or snap a pencil under the table or run away from the dinner table. Oh, dear, thats true. As a fragrance-sensitive person I dont want to dismiss the co-workers concern about smelling the offending patchouli. Carry an inhaler, epi-pen, etc., plan around it if you can I mean, its not like someone with that severe a reaction can force everyone in every public place they visit to use all scent-free products, so theyd still have to be able to cope with or have contingency plans for exposure to scent in places other than work, and maybe they need to extend those plans to the work environment too. The best you can do is ask people to be considerate. Some of that scent is going to linger in the machine, so even if I do my clothes separately, there might be scent residue that affects the coworker. Its really difficult to calmly sit with the person attached to that trigger and explain whats happening. My cat peed on a mattress after a surgery and I could not get the smell out of my nose. Here's how to tell if one or more of your coworkers are toxic: 1. Its Bully 101 to push and push and push until the victim explodes, and then so and so blew up at me for NO REASONoh, poor me. Still, no reason for Jane to be childish about it! Thank you, Ill suggest that to my manager! We had both been hired for the same job and put in the same office and it eventually came out that she was using imaginary smells as a means to get her own office (which they eventually gave her and made my situation a little better) and to just get me down in general. Q: Someone who sits near me (who I don't work with directly) has the most annoying habits. Let me tell you, African women, French women and certain Asian women wear perfume when they are out in public. And yeah, it really makes me feel for the OP here. Allow your puppy little sniff breaks along the walk to decompress from walking alongside you in Heel and get their fill of scents. Im scent sensitive myself (both nose wise and skin wise) and Im absolutely repulsed by scents, where Im sure I gross others out with my lack of scents. In the content I consume (friend groups/random internet threads, etc) Ive seen patchouli used more as a synonym for hippie smell than in reference to actual patchouli. She might be unwittingly attributing what she smells to you for the simple reason your scents bothered her. I hope this helps, originally I was on claratyne, telfast or Zyrtec every 4 hours and even that helped only minimally. This isnt coworker having a legitimate problem, this is coworker targeting OP for whatever reason. I find scents in my own home to very relaxing I would do what I can not to bring them into work, but I cannot control for another person never coming into contact with a fragrance molecule to this degree. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I was more than willing to not wear perfume and make sure I wasnt wearing any heavily-scented products, but theres a limit. My boss solution was to buy her a fan that she could turn on while I was in the room to point at me to keep my stink away from her. The office is not fragrance free O had air quality come in. Dolores found other things to pick on, but she stopped going after me for phantom scents and basic hygiene. Interestingly, Im really sensitive to patchouli. Oh absolutely, Id figure thats part of the process, but it could still help get rid of some smells, assuming the vinegar smell washes out after . I didnt wear any scent, but switched to unscented everything to be polite and actually reported the change to HR and my manager. Say this to the coworker: Jane, since you raised this issue, I have stopped wearing any scented products to work, and I have washed all of my work clothes in unscented laundry detergent. Not sure if she has a medical condition though or she just doesnt wear deodorant/antiperspirant. Most people have told me that they cant smell my scents at all, unless theyre like actively sticking their nose in the crook of my elbow or something. In other words, I tried steps 1-4 above, but was on my own to deal with this nut and couldnt get anything to work. This requires a somewhat herculean effort of open windows, incense, scented candles, oil burners, and oil diffusers, plus regular cleaning of the litter box with high quality litter. Is the problem with ME personally or something that I am wearing or carrying? Let her sniff your jacket or your bag for example. Listed as smelling like sky and linen. Im bringing this angle up because your coworker was wearing it after a weekend and doesnt seem to wear it every day. Heres an article he wrote for CNN that was reposted on a blog (couldnt find the original): http://www.emilysstomach.com/2013/06/aversions-to-food-and-why-smells-make.html. From what Ive read, it seems that if this happened to me I would have to spend several hundred dollars replacing every toiletry and all laundering supplies in my home, wash everything I own multiple times and most likely get all coats and heavy fabrics dry cleaned, and even THEN the coworker may still not be happy with my potential scent. That just made my phantom smell issues like 10x worse because I was right one time.). :/ And yeah, patchouli, being one of my favourites, definitely is one of the more intense and stronger scents that helps beat down the ammonia smell of cat wee, thats for sure. Um no. Instead they want to continue chatting or working. STOP WEARING THE ESSENTIAL OILS. I dont get how it is different than a person who has to use a wheelchair or hearing aids. Thats just how it is. Copyright 2007 - 2023 Ask A Manager. Note that the issue is addressed in a business by in this case, the sniffer's manager, to the sniffer. It's not so easy no matter where you work. You can do what you can to not overtly smell of fragrance, but I would be pissed if a coworkers extremely sensitive nose caused my employer to change my lifestyle so drastically outside of work. This is why Im scared to take up perfume, for fear of being 80 and having a personal cloud of smell. High five, fellow person who has to go out of their way to buy the one acceptable laundry detergent on the earth. Sniffing is one of my triggers to, whenever I her even one small sniff I get a huge panic attack. Colleagues If you have a colleague who burps or sniffs excessively, the easiest approach is to tell her you find it offensive or unsanitary and, in the case of loud burping, do not consider it humorous. If they were prevented from being able to smell, many many of them had reactions to the smell when they thought it was there and it wasnt and did not react when it was there but they didnt know. Policy. Yes Tom Ford has a fragrance called White Patchouli that I refer to as my rich hippie perfume. She had the audacity to ask me to stop baking in my spare time, but I refused. (One of the worst smells for me is certain types of cigarette smoke: I dislike all of them, but some brands trigger a sinus headache, or a migraine if Im around them too long. I suffer from phantom scents (associated with seizures). Some scents are that pervasive. I used to use cloth menstrual pads and wash them in the shower with soap, and to this day I cant quite tell the smell of menstrual blood apart from the smell of Ivory soap. The cuffs absolutely did smell like patchouli but I had gone nose blind to it. IE you can spray Febreeze but by gods let me know so I stay out of the place for a half hour or more so the scent carrier dissipates. We ended up deciding to go scent free office because both of them was sensitive to different things. If coworker needs an accommodation they need to ask for it, and they cannot be permitted to continue to be snarky about it and rude. Febreeze offers a scent-free allergen reducer version of the spray, which might be helpful if the OPs coworker actually still has a sensitivity and isnt just being rude. Im in the group that hates the smell of patchouli. I do agree your coworker is being rude. C: Understanding that it might not be OP, but that for a really legitimate reason coworker THINKS it is, at least unconsciously and D: the only way to take the bias out of the experiment is to NOT know where or whether OP is in the room when the test is being done. Yes, my indie oils are my perfume. Im allergic to a ton of fragrances. She should take this up with the manager, not with you directly, and certainly not with little cutting comments instead of direct requests. Same here. I know you cant do it, because itd be hard to make it fly, but Id love to blindfold that coworker and have them walk around and see what they smell where. Sure, the smell bothered me and sometimes I had to go take a walk to the water cooler to clear my head, but we were doing everything possible to mitigate the scent in the office so I just had to suck it up and deal with it and I would never dream of asking my boss to change his lifestyle to accommodate me. If its patchouli in particular that your co-worker is commenting on, is there ANYTHING patchouli-scented in your house or your car that might be getting picked up by your clothes? I can tell my sniffing gets REALLY bad when I am upset or frustrated, and then it is moderate at other times, almost like a habit. that are much more reasonable than making an entire office change routines and buy completely new products. . At this point, the coworker really needs to be talking with her boss or HR to figure something out. And I dont know if the shirty pun was intentional or not, but I like it. I have the worst reaction to it myself. The limbic center is the part of the brain that controls emotional, physical, and psychological responses. I cant handle it at all! I only participate in consensual drum circles ;), OP, can I just say your comments have been cracking me up? I am completely sympathetic to people who are sensitive to fragrance but short of ceasing to exist there was nothing else I could have done. Skinless chicken breast with salt and pepper and grilled on a George Forman grill so tastes like bugger all else? 16 12 12 comments Best Add a Comment MassiveExplosion 5 yr. ago Snarky or not, it does highlight that the problem is the co-workers to solve, not the OPs. I was going to say this. At this point you have done plenty to make her life easier, and she is being rude. Seriously, have you ever had to restock all of your cleaning crap lately? In this role, you will work closely with your team, other managers and team leads within the AM organization and cross functionality with Sales, Marketing & Product to expand and retain customers and provide . Its easy for responses that were designed to keep us safe to become a little overreactive. I'd excuses myself and if boss asked why I'd say I can't be near someone who sniffles or. Im going to ask that we stop with those suggestions now and instead focus on how she should deal with the coworker, which I think will be more helpful to her. Im assuming the OP has always worn fragrance and stopped last month when the coworker could smell it. , so I havent said anything about them. So as far as I can tell, this came out of left field. Im saying this as someone with almost no sense of smell, so my word is worth nothing, but I really really bet thats whats going on. Id ask the co-worker to describe the smell and when she smells it. And if the comments dont stop, then you can legitimately say that you have cut out all scented products and it hasnt changed anything. Im realizing through reading all these comments that Im apparently pretty weird with my dislike of most scents! Vinegar is good at getting out the smell of smoke too. However, completely overhauling my beauty product inventory to find something thats scent free AND works for me (so that I dont show up to work in my naturally oily, sweaty, smelly state) would be a huge burden. Other commenters have made some potentially useful suggestions about other sources of scent; however, my reading of this is that your coworker is being a jerk. I will happily concede that these people are probably right. Perhaps he has the scent-free version that my two cents mentioned. Sadly, lots of people fall for this. Oils, especially, can seep into fabric and smell forever, even though you are no longer wearing scented products. I also think that the manager needs to be a little more forceful with the coworker about the comments- tell the coworker to knock it off. Find out what causes asthma, and how to take control of your symptoms. And the OP is herself sensitive to chemical smells, so the Febreeze would be harming herself. I think the LWs coworker is bullying her and LW should respond accordingly. But wayward snacks and toys arent the only things that can block nasal passages. My sensitivities dont entitle me to that kind of control over another person, the LWs coworkers dont either. I would still never buy it or order it in a bar, however. At this point, it feels like Im being harassed for fragrances that Im not wearing and I want you to stop., You could also say, If youre suffering from fragrance sensitivity, you should talk to (manager) or HR about what accommodations they can offer. If not I would actually quit over this. One discoveryfat people (and more dramatically women, of course) in the material always resulted in people claiming the scent stank even when they rated the scent as pleasant or neutral when other images were involved. So whether shes extra-sensitive or not, shes clearly a jerk. Oh, Jager I cant be near it. Thats a good idea! For a while I just wore grapefruit scented essential oil on my wrists and neck instead of perfume, but it would fade away so fast I eventually just stopped. So if the co-worker were to have a genuine allergy to patchouli, say, it wouldnt help. Thats very possible. Shes never complained before now about my perfume, and Im sure she would mention if she was having health issues based on it. I think we can all agree that the best outcome would be for OP to shave her head, live in a sterilization chamber, and wear a new sterile smock every day. Hopefully shell decide its too embarrassing to continue on with her charade if there are no more items left for her to be offended by. Even I cant wear those. But we shake it off, and the office culture is such that a person complaining about that sort of thing would be told to suck it up unless it presents a health concern. Wear a smoking jacket when I stepped out? My boyfriend has the same problem. Issues are raised. And you cant tell me that people who do have legitimate issues with scents dont routinely encounter scents that bother them. (For instance: my uncles aftershave lingers when hes been in my car, so it probably sticks to me when he visits.) Agree. Then talk to the coworker pretty directly, too. That sucks you can't have headphones in. Im fragrance sensitive. And laundry care routines arent always simple either my mom has allergic reactions to many common brands of detergent, so finding a new unscented brand that doesnt make her break out in hives would be, again, a trial and error process that could get expensive fast. The coworker is the problem here. Does coworker comment on every male in the office that uses cologne or Old Spice deodorant? The scent I was wearing the day she complained wasnt even actually patchouli, although I admit that I have loved the smell of patchouli since my ill-advised goth phase in high school. I love perfumes and scented bath products, but my scalp is really allergic to many fragrances. If your coworker continues the comments after these conversations, then at that point, say this: Clearly this isnt something we can resolve on our own. Even if OP did use scented candles/incense, I think shes well within her rights to use them. If you have a fabric chair it could have residual scents. We didnt know. Yeah, you have definitely gone above and beyond to accommodate this coworker. I never heard of that, but I totally get it. I cant think of anything else that I can do. LW didnt disclose her ethnicity (and she shouldnt feel pressured to) but I know from having friends with various backgrounds (some Indian, some black, etc) that, for example, sometimes someone of Indian heritage will be mocked for smelling like curry, even when they dont. Sometimes though, the cat wee smell will catch up to me and Ill get home from work and WHOA. I love patchouli. I have had reactions to certain smells, even one flavor of herbal tea, that makes me sneeze and sneeze. Take AAMs suggestions to speak to Manager or to take it to HR and see what kind of reaction you get. Its like take the LW at their word doesnt apply to fragrance-based letters or something. Shes also likes to make comments about other people smelling bad when shes one of them. I would be saying you have a problem with the smell of soap and water? Every action is . Ive had this happen with arm rests and scented lotions. If symptoms last more than a month and over-the-counter remedies havent done the trick, its time to see a physician.. I dont have any advice, but I am wondering how it is fair or reasonable that the OP should even have to make all of these concessions at her own expense because her coworker wont stop picking on her. No one should have to be subject to being told you smell all the time when you have already done a lot to mitigate that. Smells sink into our brain and memory and association in a way almost nothing else does. (Posting this at 12:20 p.m. EDT, so comments before then werent ignoring this; they were just earlier.). I wonder, are there treatment options for people who are extra sensitive to fragrances? I would make sure your boss is aware of all the changes youve made and then refer Jane to HR every time she says something. I had my last root beer float at age 9 or so, and I will never eat another one as long as I live. All Rights Reserved. For me those are much worse than perfume. Fine. I am sorry youre going this. When Im exposed to a trigger, I cant think clearly, I get super irritable, and all I want to do is get away. Stomach bug hit that night. My point is that maybe something similar is happening with OPs coworker and smells. * Unscented products dont work well on me. I am on a small anti-anxiety med now and it has made a difference. By using this Site you agree to the following, By using this Site you agree to the following. Is it at all possible that after a long time of using scents theyre settled into a chair or the office? Business Etiquette & Workplace Manners on Burping and Sniffing. I bake a lot and once had a coworker complain about my perfume, which was actually the fact that my house tends to smell like cookies! It smells nothing at all like lemon though. I am only saying this in the hopes that getting to the bottom of the issue will make it easier to figure out a solution. Never in my life did I think I'd see Gordon Ramsay quoted positively in an etiquette forum, but there it is, and he did well. If co-worker said that the scented oils give her migraines or make her feel like shes going to vomit, I think thats a different level than just saying I dont like that scent. I never smelled when she needed a ride anywhere or we werent in the office. about. Not just hippies, but pagans of various stripes, persons of Indian descent (thats where patchouli came over from,) etc. Almost everyone I know who wears that kind of scent is white, and I really hope that OP is, too. Yep. Changes in temperature or barometric pressure can also cause non-allergic rhinitis, he adds. But Im not going to ask another person to never drink that tea again. Instead they want to continue chatting or working. Although if someone (politely) asked me to use a different detergent because it was making them ill, I probably would. The manager role is responsible for guiding, coaching, onboarding and exceeding targets for a team of up to 8 AMs. Hold a constructive private conversation. swiping a forearm across the nose. It just struck me how familiar some of this sounded and wanted to offer another possibility. FWIW, our former college president was sensitive to smells. 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